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Chronic Illness in the home: Try Psychology for helpful tips

Chronic Illness in the home: Try Psychology for helpful tips

I found Psychology benefited me with my chronic illnesses, making me feel a lot better over time.

Making it Normal by Timothy Weymann, LCSW

Summary Tips from The Psychology of Chronic Illness: Relationships

Blame Game

  • Low social support = distress Baby Boomers have been raised in household duties and childcare responsibilities which can make life challenging for a high social life and income.
  • This in itself can cause a lot of distress.
  • Yet it could happen to anyone.
  • Adding chronic illness to it makes it even more challenging with low social support.
  • Becoming a ‘scapegoat’ Click on this link to gain insights you might not have seen before.
  • You will find more than you expected and very accurate.
  • As a recovering scapegoat I found this article particularly pertinent and a good read.

Finding A Safe Balance

  • Over-involvement I am guilty of over involvement probably due to my ‘scapegoat’ status always trying to do my very best to my own detriment.
  • Once I realize I was in over-involvement mode I purposefully decided to change my ways.
  • Especially for the sake of my health while reversing chronic illnesses.
  • Diseases part Having encountered multiple diseases throughout my life I know how much it affects daily life.
  • Having care takers is valuable while very challenging without support from others and loved ones.
  • If you lack full-time support you might have to find your own resilience to get through it, as I have found.

Sharing The Load

  • Our part/Their part It is beneficial to have cooperation with a supporter doing their part to help you.
  • It is also fair for the one who is chronically ill to do their part as much as is possible.
  • It also encourages the one who is ill to feel their contributions are valued and appreciated.
  • Family/Marital Therapy If you are chronically ill it can take a toll on any type of relationship.
  • Receiving regular therapy can be a life saver.
  • Having an outside view of the situation can help balance tension. Responsibility and understanding can also benefit all concerned.
  • Interpersonal Therapy There are important benefits managing your situation with Interpersonal Therapy in a deeply personal way.
  • With confidentiality you may feel better being able to talk freely, receiving the help to relieve your situation.
  • Social Media use In the event that it is difficult to connect with friends or family Social Media platforms can be the next best to keep socialized.
  • Feeling part of something greater than home-bound chronic illness, restricting you from face to face contact, can make you feel better and less lonely.

Learning To Cope

  • Coping Strategies I have discovered many coping strategies unique to me.
  • Intuitively I discover ways of helping myself, having become resilient, watching how others cope and having regular therapy.
  • It makes me feel less helpless, more hopeful and more able to move forward.
  • Support Groups What a difference support groups made for me.
  • Having attended support groups for five years during my cancer years.
  • A fibromyalgia support group helped me get through to reversal stage.
  • My goal is to return to that support group to share my testimony of healing.

Remember: There is hope always with bountiful solutions. Choose which ones work for you and your loved ones.

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My Helpful “Meaning Making” Brings Hope To Us

“Meaning Making” sounds helpful and hopeful for me…

With chronic illness it can be very hard to find meaning in it.

It all seems meaningless and unfair, but I have found that my chronic illnesses are now reversing. I am healing while sharing my new found knowledge with you.

It has been the most meaningful journey of my life!

 

Let’s make it mean something special for us…what do you think?

Summary from Timothy Weymann, LCSW for “Meaning -Making”

Religion: The Great Mystery

Spirituality: Part of the Great Mystery

Five Themes:

  • Loss and uncertainty
  • Learning one’s capacity
  • Maintaining fellowship and belonging
  • Having a source of strength
  • Building anew.

Negative Findings:

  • Beware of shame
  • blame and abandonment with chronic illnesses
  • with religion or spirituality or neither

Neutral Findings:

  • Intercessory prayer and it’s affect on chronic illness

Positive Findings:

  • Lack of forgiveness with increased pain problems
  • With improved mental health with forgiveness

Post-traumatic Growth:

  • Chronic illness can be traumatic and life threatening leading to PTSD (Post Traumatic Stress Disorder)
  • Belief matters
  • Development of self
  • Internal growth making meaning out of life
  • What life is all about
  • Looking back on the post traumatic growth experienced
  • Benefit Finding through strengthening the individual with increased empathy relating to others
  • Motivated to help others after experiencing chronic illness themselves

Remember: Romans 8:28 King James Version

And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

Note: I personally have experienced all of these situations. I empathize with those who suffer from chronic illness, hence this article. I hope it helps you as much as it helped me.

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Helpful Information On Stress And It’s Affect On Our Health

Disclaimer: Notes recorded by Debby Blettner

What are fatal pleasures?

BBalya Lecture by Jason Han PhD, 1999

Psychologist, Jason Han PhD, began with a question:

“What are fatal pleasures? ”

Dying happy can also be dangerous..

Extreme joy can be stressful, but, “He died happy!”

The first lesson on Psychology is to observe. Watch other people in a queue, how they stand, waiting for their turn to pay for their goods. Dr. Han observed that one lady was reading a book. She was relaxing.

He suggested that we watch animals how they relax, for example cats.

Stress is beneficial up to certain point.

Up to this point, you increase your performance.

Past this point, your performance then deteriorates.

Eustress – with the stress of performance there is an increase in demand, the performance increases. Some people thrive on stress.

$50 -70 billion is spent each year on stress treatments in the US.

Coronary Heart disease, cancer and lung diseases, in fact the 6 major diseases known, are caused by stress.

Many people don’t admit to being depressed, they say, ” Me depressed, don’t make me laugh”.

There is such a thing as latent or hidden stress where people don’t realize they are getting into hot water. Dr Han gave the example of the frog in a pan of cool water that was placed on a stove. Unbeknownst to the frog, the pan was being heated. The frog didn’t realize until it was too late.

Worry, irritability, and sickness are all signs of stress.

What is stress? It is defined as the degree of arousal, how stirred up one becomes, if one is stirred up a lot, this is considered great stress!

Dr. Han drew a few graphs on the board to demonstrate. The greater the degree of stress, the lower the performance rate of the person.

Another graph was drawn to demonstrate the optimum stress level:

The level ‘A ‘ was the stress of boredom, not enough stress to keep any one excited about anything. Boredom can be stressful too.

Then there was the level “B”, which was a moderate level of pressure.

Level “C” was the stress of excess pressure. So the three categories were stress under-load, optimum stress, and stress overload.

Keep the stress in “B” level.

“A” level showed increasing ill health.

“B” showed increasing health, and

“C” showed increasing ill health.

Workaholics fit the “C” level.

When our bodies are under stress overload, our bodies start a distress response. It senses a threat and activates a distress response. The Hypothalamus is a part of the brain and the Pituitary Gland is the master gland that controls all hormone secretion.

ACTH Hormones are released when stressed. When these hormones are produced, and not used, they suppress the immune system. They produce corticosteroids, which give energy, glucose and carbohydrates. Adrenalines gets released first.

The body goes into a fight or flight response. This is not so suited to our modern lifestyle and to modern man! Stress affects lymphocytes.

Low stress should be a priority during radiotherapy treatments.

Spread things out, take your time. If you are building up too much stress take more time, slow down to be less likely to be in distress.

Why don’t zebras get ulcers? Because when they sense danger or are under stress, they use their flight response.

If you get stressed, go for a run or a brisk walk, or run around the block to use up all the corticosteroids.

The lesson is, if you get angry, use up these hormones, or don’t produce them at all. Chronic stress increases the chance of cancer. If you get angry it is good to go for a run and use up the excess adrenaline.

Cancer patients have weakened immune systems. Work on getting your immune system healthy, and watch out for stress.

“Time” is a very important word to high achievers. They are Type “A” personality. They talk fast, eat fast, walk fast and are agitated type people. It is good to reverse this!

Try to talk slowly, eat slowly, and spend a half an hour at each meal! Enjoy the food and be happy! Change the way we think about health and healing. Then hope and anticipation replace depression and despair.

Time can be very stressful – deadlines! The focus on the deadline for cancer patients can make them lose their ability to live.

One rule to remember:

Keep within Eustress – One thing at a time:

One step at a time

One day at a time

An efficient person never does anything in a hurry

The Precious Present

The past is history,

The future is a mystery,

And this moment is a gift.

That is why this moment is called

“The Present”.

By Dr Johnson.

The secret of enjoying life is to enjoy every moment and watch out for deadlines!

End of Lecture by Dr. Jason Han.

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